What scares you, I mean REALLY scares you? Being in a car accident? Loss of a loved one? Your kids not going to college and struggling in life? Losing your job? Why do I make such awful suggestions, PERSPECTIVE.
Psychology Today defines FEAR as a vital response to physical and emotional danger—if we didn’t feel it, we couldn’t protect ourselves from legitimate threats. But often we fear situations that are far from life-or-death, and thus hang back for no good reason.
Fear is often confused with anxiety, which is more of a dreaded feeling about something which appears intimidating and can overwhelm an individual. I frequently hear this from my clients. “I don’t know where to start. It’s too overwhelming.” “I’m afraid if I get rid of that item (recycle, trash or donate) I will immediately find a need it once it is gone.” Thus continues a cycle of inaction, due to the high anxiety of making a change.
So, some perspective… where to start, start anywhere. In the kitchen, for example, open the drawers of cooking utensils. Pull everything out and take inventory. Do you have 7 spatulas? How many do you need? How many do you use? (Are those different questions in your mind?) Are any broken, melted, damaged – can those go? Do this with the lot, then wipe out the drawer and put back what you are keeping. How many items did you choose to get rid of? Now be clear, I did not say, freak out and tackle the whole kitchen, just a drawer for starters.
Overcoming that anxiety and perceived fear means taking a risk, and in this case exposing yourself to loss. Now it’s time to take some personal inventory. Most people fall into one of two categories when it comes to change, move away from pain or move towards pleasure. Which one of these best describes you? Think about a space in your home that needs attention. Are you more likely to get fed up with a space because tripping over one more box and stubbing your toe has you at the end of your rope or can you think forward to a better situation where you find things with ease and know where things are? Either way, if you are looking to get organized, you must first decide you are ready to make a change.
So having come full circle, and making a decision to change your physical surroundings, what fear/anxiety does that bring up for you? I have found for myself, when I fear moving forward in a situation, I get fully afraid. This allows me to see what is at stake, what is the risk? Is the risk monetary, memories or surplus? What do you risk by NOT risking; your space, the same memories (because they get moldy or crushed in the “storage process”, different monies, ongoing stress about what is left undone?
Where do you think you will start today? What areas of your home are longing for freedom from anxiety? Remember to keep breathing, you can do this. You are not alone.
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